Now more than ever, the importance of relaxation can’t be understated.
Give yourself permission to relax. If there were 25 hours in a day, how would you spend that extra hour? Would you cram in another hour of work or would you take time for yourself and relax?
Before you answer, consider this: According to studies conducted on stress and its polar opposite, relaxation, those who are less stressed and more relaxed live longer with fewer health problems.
The Importance of Relaxation
“Relaxing is a very important part of farming successfully,” says Robert Fetsch, Professor and State Extension Specialist in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at Colorado State University. “Ag production is such a high-stress and high-tension occupation that it’s important for everyone to take care of themselves. We know from research that people who don’t take good care of themselves, don’t live as long.”
If you put off relaxation for too long, it can lead to burnout. Here are some of my tips for avoiding burnout on the farm.
Also, consider this: a farmer’s job is never done.
“Farmers and farm families work very hard,” adds Don Bower, Department Head of Child and Family Development at the University of Georgia. “But there’s always something more to do regardless of how many hours you work.”
Maybe you understand the importance of relaxation, but it hasn’t forced you to implement it into your routine. I hope the rest of what we have to share today will be the impetus you need to unwind.
Relaxation is Relative
The evolution of farming and American work habits, in general, have progressed to the point where the time for relaxation is a scarce commodity. Studies have shown that Americans have added the equivalent of seven weeks to their annual work schedule since 1970 through longer work hours and less vacation time.
“These are some troubling statistics, so it’s important to find some balance in your life,” says Bower. “There is clear evidence that over time, stress reduces your body’s physical resilience. You’re less likely to be able to withstand infections and injuries if your body is not renewed by relaxation as well as good nutrition and exercise.”
Wendell Joyce, farmer and former Executive Director of the Canadian Farm Business Management Council, notes that farm safety can also be at risk. “When I reflect on it, all the close calls I’ve had have been when I was under pressure or overtired,” he says. “There’s a very definite correlation between the two.”
Before you insist that you can’t possibly take five minutes out of your schedule to do nothing, consider that relaxing isn’t simply being idle.
“Relaxation is relative,” says Joyce. “It doesn’t have to be sitting on a beach or in a rocking chair. Relaxation can be sitting on a tractor. I find making hay is as relaxing for me as sitting in a rocking chair in the living room. Checking calves with my son is also relaxing. Relaxation is more of a state of mind than a physical location. It can be defined in many different ways.”
I define relaxation as enjoying a cup of tea and a good laugh with friends around the kitchen table. For my husband, it’s calling his mother who lives three hours away but wants to remain connected to the farm.
My father, who’s in his 80s and still farms, relaxes by taking a 10-minute power nap after lunch.
I haven’t learned the art of napping, but it’s a great way to take a break and build more pauses into your life. It’s really wherever you go in your mind, body, and spirit where you lose all track of time and you become renewed.
Incorporating Relaxation and “Pausing” Your Day
DETERMINE WHAT MAKES YOU STRESSED
Pay attention to how your body reacts to certain situations. Notice when you feel tension in your neck, shoulder, or jaw. Stress causes other physical changes in your body as well, such as increased heart rate and chemical imbalances, notes Bower.
Learn the difference between problems and predicaments, encourages Fetsch.
Predicaments are forces over which you have less than 50% control, such as the weather, commodity prices, etc. Problems are factors over which you have at least 50% control.
“When I ask people to list their top 10 stressors, the weather almost always makes the list, so do commodity prices and equipment costs,” says Fetsch. “But these are all predicaments over which you don’t have control. Rather than focus on these, focus on aspects over which you have control such as when you’ll turn on the irrigation water.
“The same rule applies to relationships with people. You probably don’t have a lot of control over what Mom and Dad thinks,” he continues. “Instead of focusing on their reaction, focus on how you can be the best farmer, husband, wife, etc. you can be.”
CONTROL YOUR REACTION TO STRESS
Fetsch defines stress as a response to a perceived threat. Rarely are our threats truly dangerous, but threats against our plans – especially those involving time, money, or relationships – are the basis for most of our stress.
For example, what is your reaction to a rainy morning if you had fieldwork planned?
“Instead of letting it stress you out, focus on work that can be done in the barn or the office,” says Bower.
Making it a productive day will reduce stress. “Make a conscious decision to reframe an unplanned circumstance as an opportunity to do something else,” he says. Rather than obsess about them, train yourself to let go of those things you can’t control.”
By the way, I share how to develop stress resiliency on the farm right here.
CONSIDER YOUR PERCEPTION
Your perception of a stressful event is a key variable between those who handle stress well and those who don’t, explains Fetsch. For example, it may not be so much a financial condition as what that financial condition means to you.
“If you think you’re going under, you’ll have a lot higher stress and depression than if you think you have some way to manage it,” he says. “It may help to consider that at other times in your life you may have lived with less income, or maybe a spouse can get a part-time job. If you look at positive actions, it will help your stress level and depression and will help you stay healthier with better family functioning. It’s like a card game – it’s not so much winning or losing, but how well we deal with the hand we’re dealt.”
There are several physical and mental activities that can release tension and promote relaxation. Physically, Fetsch suggests that you do stretching exercises every morning, especially if you plan to do a physically strenuous activity during the day.
“Periodically throughout the day take some time for deep breathing. Roll your head to the left and right a few times and close your eyes for a second or two,” he notes. “It’s a relatively simple thing to do that doesn’t take much time. It’s best to be able to relax for 20 to 30 minutes, but even a minute or two is better than nothing.”
Emotionally, Fetsch says to focus on things that are pleasant to you, such as family. “There is real value in getting physically removed from the operation,” adds Joyce. “But on those days when you can’t do that, you can do it in your mind.”
TAKE SOME TIME OFF
Try setting aside one day a week where you don’t plan any farm work. Having a day with no real fixed agenda can be beneficial.
STAY CONNECTED WITH NEIGHBORS AND THE COMMUNITY
Joyce indicates that in just one generation we’ve gone from a society that enjoys a friendly visit to one that hopes no one stops when they spot us outside.
The culture has shifted. Drop-in visits just don’t happen anymore. The gift of a visit, a good meal, and having fun together are becoming lost rural arts. They used to give people a lot of renewal and relaxation.
But we can regain some of it.
Most of us have a cell phone. Call your neighbors and ask if it’s OK to drop in. (Maybe not right now because of social distancing!) They have the opportunity to say yes or no, and you haven’t lost anything by asking.
Staying connected also helps identify neighbors and friends in crisis.
Keep an eye out for who is withdrawing. Some people’s response to financial and time pressures is to pull back from the community. Pay attention to who isn’t coming to the auctions and special community events. Most people don’t even realize they’re disconnecting.
LET GO OF HOSTILITY
Research indicates that those who are not only stressed but are also hostile about it, are at greater risk for health issues.
“There’s a difference being stressed and being stressed with hostility,” says Fetsch. “When there’s anger and blame towards the government, family members, the neighbor, etc., at some point these people will likely have health problems.”
GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO PAUSE
Don’t confuse relaxing with being lazy. It’s a good thing.
Relaxation isn’t lazy
“Everybody has the same 24 hours a day and everybody makes decisions about what to do with them,” Bower says. “Think about other people who depend on you. If you feel you’re being selfish by taking a few minutes to relax, consider that it’s an investment in your family. It’s an investment for being around to see your children and grandchildren. Farmers, in particular, are very concerned about appearing to be selfish, but consider that by relaxing, you’re doing something for someone else. Give yourself permission to take care of yourself.”
Now that you know more about the importance of relaxation for you AND the farm, what are you going to do to relax?
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This article was originally published on June 20, 2017, and has been updated.