Conflict Dynamics Profile
Many farm families that reach out to me are looking for better communication and more family harmony. The curious thing is many of them do not recognize or embrace my stance of conflict resolution being a business risk management strategy. When you get good at resolving conflict on your farm, you’ll be more effective as a team and you’ll love your culture at work.
I suggest you order the Conflict Dynamic Profile (CDP) as a first step to discovering what is truly going on. You’ll learn how good you are (compared to the database of 9000 folks) at positive behaviours like:
- Perspective taking
- Creating solutions
- Expressing emotions
- Reaching out
- Reflective thinking (Remember when your mom told you to count to ten. She was right!)
You’ll sit in some self-awareness as you read your scores for the not so helpful habits you have that increase the drama on your farm, habits that need to shift:
- Winning at all costs
- Displaying anger (which is really rooted in fear, hurt and frustration)
- Demeaning others
- Hiding emotions
- Self-criticizing (your negative self-talk is also not helping you)
And last, but not least you get a clear picture of what others do that ticks you off, your hot buttons:
- Aloof (one of mine, I don’t like it when folks are silent and won’t create solutions with me )
- Unreliable (my other hot button. Please do what you say you will do!)
WOW. That’s a lot of information but being clear is kind. Now you know what to expect with this 20 minute online tool. Imagine how good it would feel to have concrete insights for your farm family so you can talk about the practical steps you need to take to be better at conflict and communicate without being triggered. I can’t wait to see your results!
Facing your positive behaviours is fun, the good stuff.
Being aware of the destructive habits that need to shift will take some listening, understanding and self-reflection.
Knowing your hot buttons will open better communication with your spouse and your farm team.
You have two choices.
Or start learning new conflict awareness through this tool to build up your toolbox for better communication.
You know the families that meet regularly, and talk are 21% more profitable right?
What are you waiting for?
Conflict Dynamics Profile + Coaching
In addition to the Conflict Dynamics Profile get one hour of coaching with Elaine to understand your CDP results, your conflict profile.
Once you have completed the profile a report will be sent privately back to you, not your spouse, unless you want to have a couple’s coaching call about your results.
One hour of Conflict Dynamics Coaching with Elaine Is $350 plus GST… less than a bag of canola seed.
Finding Fairness in Farm Transition.
Finding harmony in understanding.
Passing down the farm with the reality of high land values is complicated but not impossible.
Do you want your farm business to remain intact for the next generation? Most do. Do you want the family to get along and come home for gatherings? Most do. What most farms don’t do is break down assumptions, have robust respectful family meetings, and discover the expectations of ALL family members for the succession or transition of the farm.
Elaine Froese is an expert in quickly mapping out the family dynamic and identifying the key challenges that need to be unpacked.
Discuss the UndiscussabullTM
In many farm kitchens there’s a bull in the middle of the room – what I’ve termed as the “Undiscussabull” – the thing no one is willing to talk about it. That stops now!
Most families know they need to talk about tough issues; they just don’t know HOW or where to get started.
If you’re stuck and wanting to bring your family to the table to start the conversation, find out about my unique process called “Discuss the UndiscussabullTM“.