“Mom, Help me Find a Job!

“It isn’t what you did for me; it’s that you believe in me.”

Moms believe their children can accomplish anything, it’s part of the mommy code of life. We’re about to celebrate and honour mothers…in less than two weeks.

It’s also the time of year when students are trying to find summer employment, and high school seniors are desperately ducking the question of “What are you doing in September?”

Moms may be even looking for more income opportunities as the cash flow crunch hits harder on many frost-bitten farms this year.

Finding a job, landing a workplace opportunity, is about “choice not chance.” That was the 2005 theme for the National 4-H Careers Conference held last month in Winnipeg.

Grab a pencil, and write down some of these tips for career development:

  • Buy a copy of What Colour is Your Parachute? 2005 Edition by Richard Bolles. This is the classic tool for helping you chart your path, and understand the basics of aligning the way you are wired to the work that will suit you! Many people have benefited from Bolles’ common sense approach to testing things out.
  • Check out This is the website that the 4-Her’s learned more about. It’s a government site with lots of helpful information including financing and budgeting.
  • Don’t give in to what Cheryl Richardson calls “Future Shock”. Knowing where you will be in September may be overwhelming. Work at your plan in small steps, and keep collecting information and talking to people. Moms suffer future shock when they fret about their children’s futures. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, you will know the blessings of casting all your cares on Him!
  • Make yourself business cards. Networking is the key to mining your contacts for new opportunities. Many jobs are filled by word of mouth, and being at the right place at the right time. This is what is known as the hidden market. Build up your optimism and resilience by making lots of connections, and remember to say thank-you to people for sharing their time and expertise with you!
  • Ask clearly for what you need. If you need a certain wage, don’t beat around the bush about it. Remember also, the non-taxable benefits that you might have working for a farmer. You might get fuel for your vehicle, meals, a place to board your horse, beef for the freezer, and many other benefits. Dick Wittman has produced a great compensation worksheet for farm labour. Email Wittman at and ask about his guidebook Building Effective Farm Management Systems. “If you don’t ask for what you want, you’ll simply have to take what you get,”says author Beverly Kaye (Love it don’t leave it…26 ways to get what you want at work.)
  • Know what your definition of success is. Money doesn’t buy happiness, although someone also said “let me be the first to test that theory out!” You might view your summer job or work as a stepping stone for experience and experimentation. Seventy percent of adult learning happens by doing.
  • Activate your thinking to possibility thinking. Give yourself an “A” and read the Art of Possibility by Benjamin Zander and Rozamund Stone Zander. You have a choice to control what you can control and apply for scholarships, leadership training, and volunteer in your community.
  • Focus on what is truly important…finding meaningful work. Get rid of time-wasters that are distracting you from the most important task. Saskatchewan farmer Murray Friend said “Hard times make people re-think what they’re doing and find a better way.” Find some time and space to do some reflective thinking about your needs and desires.
  • Bust away all the excuses. If you are feeling overwhelmed, start organizing with a binder, a pencil and small steps. Create a story board for your life, and map out your thoughts on paper.
  • Confined to the country ? Copy success. Read about what other rural entrepreneurs are doing. Borrow books from inter-library loan. Attend a tele-conference or webinar on the internet. Contact for webinar listings about farm management.
  • Get smart with your finances. Are you frugal? Do you know what your money style is? Read Your Money or Your Life by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin. Assess your real living costs, do some financial updating.

Moms tend to be the CEO’s of their family, the chief emotional officer. Everyone breaths a sigh of relief when that first great job offer becomes a reality. We all need to work at seeing job changes as an opportunity and not a threat. So join the 4-Her’s and learn to do by doing. Get to work on finding gainful employment that suits the way you are wired.

And remember to thank your Mom for always believing that you could do it !


Elaine Froese speaks to farm audiences about human resource issues.

Fixing Your Time Stress Mess

60 minutes

Workaholics will discover helpful strategies for managing their time stress. Gain understanding for the tensions of your age and stage on the farm. Learn why some problems are not solvable, but just need to be managed as polarities. Self-renewing people are joyful and productive producers.


Rave reviews

“A joy to work with, heard loud and clear. When the farmers laughed or asked a great question, I knew they were listening and really wanted to learn from her. Her tips were easy to understand. It was just about understanding that conflict happens, and to have the confidence in yourself to ask for what you want. In the glowing review from farmers after her presentation, I knew they had heard that loud and clear.”
Maddy Berner, Event Planner & Communications Coordinator, National Milk Producers Federation National Milk Producers Federation
“I wanted to say a HUGE thank you for your virtual kitchen table chat with Arlan Academy. My wife and I signed up as it was exceptionally relevant to our current journey with potentially transitioning to her parents’ farm. The session was able to cover so many aspects of these crucial conversations and hearing you speak to both sides of the conversation was eye opening for my own perspective on this topic. It seemed to be very well attended and sounded like there were many other people who would echo my thoughts and feelings on it.”
N. Oakley, Farmer, Ontario
“Elaine helped me allocate $1 Million of assets the night I listened to her. Elaine’s presentation brings value to the use of my services in my office.”
Don Forbes, Forbes Wealth Management
“I recently joined in and listened to your Healthy Farmer Agriwebinar for FMC. I truly enjoyed hearing your perspective and even went and grabbed my Mom, away from her work, to come and listen in on some of your main points as well! One area that really stood out for me, both personally with our own succession plans and with our clients, was your discussion involving "Instant Influence" and how ready are you to change? I loved this concept!”
Annessa Good, FCC Transition Specialist, Alberta
“Elaine Froese truly is the Farm Whisperer. With her big heart and stern resolve, she guides families through uncharted waters and helps them arrive safely at their desired destination. She has been there, done that, and has helped hundreds of families come out on the other side. With your family and your farm legacy on the line, you owe it to yourself to start this conversation. You do not need to do it alone. Let Elaine Froese guide you through. Your legacy is being written day by day. How will you be remembered?”
Tracy Brunet, Host of The Impact Farming Show & CEO of Farm Marketer
“You speak like you’ve been sitting at our kitchen table! You know our family issues well. I am feeling more comfortable understanding what we now need to do. Elaine Froese is real.”
Audience Member,
“I attended the meeting you spoke at in Stratford Ontario recently. We held an emergency family/farm meeting today because of issues that I had enough of. We used a 'talking stick' like you recommended and wrote a chart of rules. The rest of the family thought the idea that we needed a meeting was worth rolling their eyes over, until we got started. The younger ones were quick to clue in that they now have an opportunity to be bluntly honest. The older ones took a bit longer to believe they could truly say what they think. In the end, the meeting needed two sessions because there was so much to talk about… and so many things people didn't realize were a big deal to the others. Your lessons and encouragement have given us the tools we need to get to a better place in our relationships and our business. Truly thankful.”
Kim Martin, Dairy Farmer, Ontario
“Helped me develop my framework to start having constructive and meaningful conversations around the farm.”
Tennille Wakefield, Farm Partner
“Some great lessons, Elaine! You continue to do some remarkable and potentially life-changing work.”
James Mitchell, Principal, Conversations Consulting
“Our family had a good farm meeting yesterday afternoon. Your Fairness video was a great topic of discussion. One of the action items after the meeting was to have my two non-farming siblings watch the video before the next big meeting they are involved with on the farm. It will be a great conversation starter as we catch them up on our current plan. As they are younger, we also hope it will help them to ask new questions that may not have been on their mind.”
G.G., Farm Family Legacy Coach, Alberta
“Elaine gives me excellent tools that help me work with my clients!”
Laurianne Osmack, Financial Planner / Partner, Doell Osmak Wealth Management
“She has a sense of “knowing” quickly what is happening in the family dynamic. Her messages to her audiences drive home what needs to be done next to solve the complex issues of farm transition and conflict resolution.”
Audience Member,
“Eye-opening. Excited to open the door of communication with my spouse and farm family.”
Ashley Hoppe, Farm Partner
“The Strong Farms, Strong Families session gave farm families an opportunity to meet face to face with Elaine Froese... hear her own story, experiences and skill set. From this information packed session and related materials, families could identify areas of success in their journey and other places they need assistance. The greatest take away was that participants could see that Elaine Froese is someone they can trust with the things that they hold most precious.... their family and their farm.”
Nancy Atkinson, Nobleford Ag Society, Alberta
“Elaine’s real-life scenarios help her audiences know they are not alone, knowing there are creative solutions to help them get the life on the farm they have always wanted.”
Audience Member,
“A long time female client who had refined the art of procrastination was so moved by the end of your presentation that she accepted your permission to “drop the bananas.” She contacted me soon after for an appointment to do some planning which included the selling of the family “Century Farm.” A very, very emotional decision on her part that was not likely to have occurred without your presentation.”
Don Forbes, Forbes Wealthy Management
“I just have to say… that your work is amazing and I have never forgotten your teachings from our session in Williams Lake at TRU. It is super important work. I know so many people going through the trauma of succession. I hate to use that word, but I was an “out-law” and know it can get terrible. I continue to forward your emails on to others. Keep doing what you do! You are amazing. You kind of walk into the fire regularly… and with a smile. Proud to have met you.”
Megan, BC Rancher
“As my husband and I eagerly started the course we were optimistic and excited to be taking this next step in our Farm Transition. We were starting to question ourselves and whether or not we were just being selfish and greedy, and if this Farm Transition was still an option for us. We barely got through the first Module and were already having such a huge relief. As we moved through the modulus there were so many times that we just sat back with our hands in the air and thought YES. My husband and I would smile with relief because all of the concerns that we have been struggling with were relevant and came up in the modules. We really enjoyed the course and are excited to move on to the next stages to find our farm resolution.”
Shannon Gilchrist, “Get Farm Transition Unstuck” online course participant
“My hubby farms with 2 brothers and parents, and it’s become a really toxic place. No communication, no respect, etc. Twelve months ago, my husband’s brothers told him they don’t want to work with him anymore and offered him a pay out. His parents did nothing to stop it! He had no choice but to leave. Three months later, we moved off the farm and into town. He has been offered heaps of jobs and is now truck driving and carting hay and grain. We have tried communicating with his parents about what happened but they are not interested. So basically my hubby has lost his family. Very sad but we as husband and wife are overall in a good place and moving on to create our own life. Please continue on with all your wonderful work in helping families on the farm. I continue to tell any farmers I know about you, that they must ‘google’ you, and read your books.”
Donna, Farmer, Australia

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